Fairies. Such a great subject for the child. Whimsical. Fantastical. But are they real?
My granddaughter told me she saw a fairy ring in her backyard. Since her mother is estranged from me I have only seen my granddaughter a couple of times for only minutes since 2011. She had just turned 7 when I was deemed the worst person in the world. And maybe I am, at least from her perception. And everything is perception. I think that is indisputable even if believing in fairies is not concrete but perhaps a philosophical known.
But her comment was so remarkable to me given the only few minutes out of years of our encounter. This unexpected meeting caused by a family event, she was now a few years older and yet the same little girl that spent so much of her early years in a fantastic imaginary world of being at Grandmommy’s House. I told her that if she found fairies to believe it and not let anyone tell her differently. I gave her a quick insight into the mind as I know it and said “all things of the mind are imagination” and in regards to not seeing one another I related the quantum concept of no time. That when we are together it is now and when we are together whenever it will be now. I suggested she live in her own world of imagination and enjoy her life with or without me physically in it but that we would always remain in each other’s hearts.
You must be wondering about the suffering brought about by the estrangement and inability of my oldest daughter to be able to forgive whatever she deems so unforgivable about me. But it is because I imagined early on in the process of letting go of the suffering the Noble Path. The Path where we fully realize that life has causes of suffering but there is a lighted path that once you find it you are on your way to having peace of mind amidst all the chaos of confused minds that bring the wrong actions and cause hearts to break.
I don’t want anyone to suffer and certainly not my children. So practicing the causes of happiness has been lighting my path as I skip along it like the ephemeral fairy that I know I am.
Many decades ago I was outside in my backyard with the most glorious sunset that lighted everything around me and I thought, “I stand in the midst of golden threads, must be whispering from God.”
So imagine your head is on your pillow. You really want to be asleep so you can wake up and feel refreshed. You want your “catch” to be complete relaxation and deep sleep. When you train your mind like a skilled fisherman, you can quickly throw back the negative and the positive thoughts and nestle into the neutral mind. The sweet vibration of a mind that can rest.
To develop this skill we must first understand that we all have three minds. It is the negative mind that always arises first because it has developed the good habit of protecting you from harm. Like going across the street, the negative mind instructs you to stop, look and listen. One of the first teachings of safety the child learns. But so much negative chatter develops over the years that even when we are safe and comfortable in our bed we are bombarded with thoughts coming from nowhere and going nowhere and they might be coming so rapidly they cause tension and stress instead of sleep.
I had that experience last night, but it was the positive mind that kept biting on the ego mind’s “hook”. The positive mind is the beneficial mind of projection. It is a useful tool that helps us create and manifest but when out of control it can cause unrest and anxiety when trying to sleep.
There are probably as many techniques to falling asleep and entering the neutral mind, a meditative state, as there are types of bait in a fisherman’s bait box. Which is your best bait for understanding how to calm the mind?
I’m asking you to stretch your imagination and “see” that we all have these three mind thought forms and for you to begin to identity the type of thinking that is crossing your mind. This is the first step in learning to meditate and also to fall asleep.
So often a person first learning to meditate will fall asleep! That is why it is good to develop a habit of meditating before bedtime. One way to meditate is to watch the breath. Watching our breath simply means to feel the sensation of the breath as it enters and exits the nostrils. To become aware of a single breath will cause the school of thoughts to swim around the mind and be less likely to take the bait and get hooked; keeping you awake. Because once a thought is on the hook of the mind it takes a skilled meditator to recognize a type of thought, allow it to wiggle about while examining it and then investigate if it is worth your energy and time and then to gently toss it back into the void from which it came. Letting it go.